Celebration: Happy?

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Happy?

Okay, Alisa, I've got a blog. Happy?
Actually, "joy" is the reason I decided to finally concede to Alisa's urgings. I have so much to celebrate! As hard as it is at times, I truly love life. And I feel so blessed; especially today!

Eighteen years ago, at this very moment (1AM), we were readying ourselves to drive to Atlanta to pick up our dream-come-true. About ten o’clock in the morning on 27 June 1990, we received the call from LDS Social Services that “we have a beautiful little baby girl waiting” for us there. Coincidentally, Steve was within moments of leaving for the airport to pick up his mother who had been waiting to come for a visit until we “got the call.” She was stunned when we told her that the call came while she was on her way. We shopped for everything we needed for our baby, and spent the rest of the evening washing all of her new clothes, blankets and sundries. We tried to sleep; but finally gave in to the excitement and started the six hour drive to Atlanta, hoping to arrive when they opened their doors…. Fast forward eighteen years, and just at this moment, our daughter returns from her date. She’s all grown up: intelligent, beautiful, discerning, wise, confident, thoughtful, and ready to expand her wings and fly…off to college. (oh, my!)

So, now I have a place to celebrate the memories, soothe the bittersweet transition, commemorate a few accomplishments, muse, and regale the tales of humor and irony that are my life!

5 comments:

alisafye said...: I LOVE IT! Nice work! Emilee looks so beautiful and grown up! Wow--18 years to the date. Perfect time to start a blog!; June 28, 2008 at 7:06 AM
Tina said...: It's fitting that you should be the first to leave a comment, Alisa, my friend! Thank you for your inspiration and encouragement. :); June 28, 2008 at 8:59 AM
Emilie said...: Moooooooom....
My hair is messed up in that picture.... :-P it's cool though.
So, how many people can see this?; June 28, 2008 at 1:15 PM
Anonymous said...: You are impressive! And so fitting Emilie doesn't like the picture--go figure one of the most beautiful creatures on Earth thinks she could ever look bad!!!
Tina, you rock and are an inspiration--you go girl!; June 28, 2008 at 5:28 PM
Anonymous said...: Oh, it occurs to me you might not know who fricnfrac is..... hum..... keeping it all on the downlow, well, let's just say there are wonder woman toes involved....; June 28, 2008 at 5:29 PM

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Do one thing at a time. The world's greatest achievements were made by people who gave the task in front of them their undivided attention. Tackling multiple activities at once might feel efficient, but is it really productive? Is giving each task 30% of your attention for three hours as effective as giving each task 100% of your attention for one hour each? If something doesn't deserve your undivided attention, maybe it's not worth doing at all.

Slow down. Why the rush? If what you're doing is important enough to warrant your time, you might as well enjoy it. Cleaning the house for an hour with your favorite music playing and your bottom shaking is better than cleaning the house in half that time but in a frantic state of mind. Plus, if you're having fun with your chores, maybe other people will be tempted to join. Don't just "get it over with"--find a way to make every activity something that you look forward to doing.

Stop being a perfectionist. High standards have their place--when performing surgery, for example, or designing a building--but when applied to other areas of your life (your appearance, your home's appearance, your hobbies, your handwriting, whatever) you're practically inviting anxiety into your life. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have any standards at all; it's when you start stressing out about the details that you need to ask yourself: "Will doing this right now make me truly happy? Will it make me a better person? Will it make the world a better place?" Usually, the answer is no. Don't allow perfectionism to become the enemy of your potential.

Step aside. When you close your eyes and imagine your role in the world, do you see yourself as Atlas, the mythological Titan, holding the weight of the world on your shoulders? Do you feel like you want to relax, but worry that if you do, everything will fall apart? If so, you need to delegate some responsibility. You might think other people won't do as good a job, but that's the thing: they'll never do it just like you do. So give them responsibility, give them advice, and pass the reins. Don't be surprised if they make mistakes; just be there to support them, and let them fix (and learn from) their mistakes. Not only will this take some weight off of your shoulders, but it can be very fulfilling to watch someone grow and mature as a result of your guidance.

Remember that it's not the end of the world. Many people spend their entire lives trying to prevent bad things from happening. But guess what? They happen anyway. And life goes on. That's not to say you shouldn't take any kinds of precautions in life, but if the majority of your thoughts are consumed in contingency planning, you're not enjoying life. You're preventing it. When you're feeling threatened by things that haven't happened yet, remember these words by Ralph Waldo Emerson: Some of your hurts you have cured, And the sharpest you still have survived, But what torments of grief you endured From the evil which never arrived.

Focus on what you have, not what you have to do. Sometimes we trick ourselves into thinking I have to straighten this up...I have to correct him...I have to stop her..." but the truth is, we don't have to do anything. You can walk away from any task, any time. Try replacing every "have to" with a "want to" and see if the statement still holds. Meaning, is it something that you'll look back on when you're in your deathbed and be happy you did? Probably not. So appreciate what you have, while you have it.

Tips

When bad things happen (and they will, no matter what) shrug and smile. Remind yourself that:

Life goes on.
Don't LET THINGS make you upset or angry. Remember its your choice to get bent out of shape. Learn from the experience. Focus on the big picture.
You win some, you lose some.
You can't please everybody.
We live and learn.

Shift your mindset so that you concentrate on what makes you feel happy, not on what makes you feel safe.

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