Celebration: Happy Birthday, Lisa!

Monday, September 22, 2008

Happy Birthday, Lisa!

Wow! Do I love my little sister!! Lisa is most intelligent and has an impeccable work ethic. She has always been dedicated to doing the right thing. She is industrious in all that she attempts, yet she makes time to relax and just BE! She creates happy memories. Lisa is loving and caring and giving. She has assiduously collected a lot of information about life and how to live it well from a wide variety of respected sources. She is thoughtful in sharing her wisdom with others. Lisa is very encouraging. She is generous. She is a wonderful example of all things good. Lisa is disciplined and inspired. She seizes the moment. Lisa is...valiant.

Lisa is dedicated to her husband and children. She embraces life and lives in a way to reflect the gift that it is.

Notable Notes about the Birthday Girl:

Lisa has mastered commemorating even the small special moments in life.
Lisa called me once to lovingly offer to carry our child, if that was the cause of our infertility.
Lisa is the best and coolest aunt ever!
As a child, Lisa would still have some of her Halloween candy saved at Christmas, and her Christmas candy at Easter! ?How'd she do that?!
Our Dad would let the two of us loose to spend hours exploring all over a Smithsonian museum on our own...and all over Kings Dominion. (It was the kind, safe 70s)
Lisa is the Imaginative-Play Partner Par Excellence: cashiers with hundreds of bits of paper... forts in the overgrowth at the dead end of River Road...the wood chip pile wonderland at West Augusta...under the cottages at Nags Head...in Uncle Creasy’s barn...back seat companion on road trips...
As teens, Lisa and I biked from our home to Sherando Lake (13/14 miles).
Lisa has established Delta F: Forced Family Fun; planning adventures so her grown-up family can keep in touch and continue to cultivate their relationships.
From a plane, Lisa wondered about the purpose of all of the vertical sticks covering the Arizona landscape...they were cacti.
I love Lisa's smile: her whole face lights up and her eyes twinkle!

A Delta F Adventure

Lisa is my first best friend.

Happy Birthday, dear sister!

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Emilie said...: You didn't put any pictures up of her getting me to participate in "nature" activities! haha; September 23, 2008 at 1:05 PM

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Steps

Do one thing at a time. The world's greatest achievements were made by people who gave the task in front of them their undivided attention. Tackling multiple activities at once might feel efficient, but is it really productive? Is giving each task 30% of your attention for three hours as effective as giving each task 100% of your attention for one hour each? If something doesn't deserve your undivided attention, maybe it's not worth doing at all.

Slow down. Why the rush? If what you're doing is important enough to warrant your time, you might as well enjoy it. Cleaning the house for an hour with your favorite music playing and your bottom shaking is better than cleaning the house in half that time but in a frantic state of mind. Plus, if you're having fun with your chores, maybe other people will be tempted to join. Don't just "get it over with"--find a way to make every activity something that you look forward to doing.

Stop being a perfectionist. High standards have their place--when performing surgery, for example, or designing a building--but when applied to other areas of your life (your appearance, your home's appearance, your hobbies, your handwriting, whatever) you're practically inviting anxiety into your life. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have any standards at all; it's when you start stressing out about the details that you need to ask yourself: "Will doing this right now make me truly happy? Will it make me a better person? Will it make the world a better place?" Usually, the answer is no. Don't allow perfectionism to become the enemy of your potential.

Step aside. When you close your eyes and imagine your role in the world, do you see yourself as Atlas, the mythological Titan, holding the weight of the world on your shoulders? Do you feel like you want to relax, but worry that if you do, everything will fall apart? If so, you need to delegate some responsibility. You might think other people won't do as good a job, but that's the thing: they'll never do it just like you do. So give them responsibility, give them advice, and pass the reins. Don't be surprised if they make mistakes; just be there to support them, and let them fix (and learn from) their mistakes. Not only will this take some weight off of your shoulders, but it can be very fulfilling to watch someone grow and mature as a result of your guidance.

Remember that it's not the end of the world. Many people spend their entire lives trying to prevent bad things from happening. But guess what? They happen anyway. And life goes on. That's not to say you shouldn't take any kinds of precautions in life, but if the majority of your thoughts are consumed in contingency planning, you're not enjoying life. You're preventing it. When you're feeling threatened by things that haven't happened yet, remember these words by Ralph Waldo Emerson: Some of your hurts you have cured, And the sharpest you still have survived, But what torments of grief you endured From the evil which never arrived.

Focus on what you have, not what you have to do. Sometimes we trick ourselves into thinking I have to straighten this up...I have to correct him...I have to stop her..." but the truth is, we don't have to do anything. You can walk away from any task, any time. Try replacing every "have to" with a "want to" and see if the statement still holds. Meaning, is it something that you'll look back on when you're in your deathbed and be happy you did? Probably not. So appreciate what you have, while you have it.

Tips

When bad things happen (and they will, no matter what) shrug and smile. Remind yourself that:

Life goes on.
Don't LET THINGS make you upset or angry. Remember its your choice to get bent out of shape. Learn from the experience. Focus on the big picture.
You win some, you lose some.
You can't please everybody.
We live and learn.

Shift your mindset so that you concentrate on what makes you feel happy, not on what makes you feel safe.

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Happy Birthday, Lisa!

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